• Natalie
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  • Probably one of the most effective ways to lower the cost of your wedding is to limit the number of guests. This may sound difficult, and it can be, but this blog post will give you a few tips for trimming your guest list. You can read our other Budget Saving Tips for your wedding on the blog.

    Deciding on a wedding guest list is one of the first tasks when planning a wedding. And while you would like to invite everyone you've ever known to share and celebrate your big day...this can get really expensive really fast! The cost per guest is not only a factor of food and liquor (however these are typically the biggest expense), but invitations, favors, and number of tables (and therefore centerpieces, menu cards, linens, and rental fees) all depend on the number of guests you invite as well. According to Cost Of Wedding, a single guest could add between $188 and $229 to the overall cost of your wedding. If you can take 10 guests off the list, you could save $2000!

    So how do you pick and choose who to invite? Here are a few steps to help you trim your wedding guest list:

    Consider venue. If you and your fiance have a specific venue in mind, ask about their guest capacity limits. Your venue restrictions may decide how long your guest list can be.
    Keep things equal and fair. Is it important that your guests are split 50/50 (bride's side and groom's side), or do one of you have a larger family? However you decide to compromise on the guest list, keep an open dialogue with your fiance and your family to avoid drama and hurt feelings later on.
    Cut by category. Categorize your guests into groups, such as immediate family, extended relatives, family friends, friends, coworkers, kids, etc. If you need to trim your list, try cutting out an entire category. For example, perhaps you decide that it will be an adult-only reception and remove the kids from your list. Or eliminate all coworkers. By eliminating an entire category, you can hopefully avoid hurt feelings about why one coworker was invited but others were not. An exception to this may be only inviting your boss or a coworker you see socially outside of the office.
    Stick to those you have seen in the last few years and that you both know. Childhood friends and old acquaintances that you haven't seen or talked to in years can probably stay off of the guest list. If you only keep in contact on Facebook and haven't seen them since college, perhaps you don't invite them. You should also try to invite only people that you both know and have been a part of your lives since you've been a couple. This includes your parent's friends. If you have never spoken to or met someone your mom wants to invite, cute them off them list (or at least limit how many of these people your parents can invite). But remember to be open and honest with your parents about why you need/want to limit the guests at the wedding, whether that reason be venue restrictions, budget restrictions, or personal preferences).
    Avoid the plus one. If you offer your single friends and family members an "and guest", those numbers can really add up. Instead, decide that only your bridal party and engaged guests can bring plus-ones. Or only include your friend's significant others but not casual dates. If your single friends have plenty of friends at the wedding, it's ok to have them come solo. To avoid confusion on your invitations, write the full names of the invited guests on the RSVP card. If you can't recall Joe's current girlfriend's name, do you really want her at your wedding anyway?
    Invite who you want to invite. If there is someone you don't want at your wedding, don't feel like you need to invite them. Even if you were invited to their wedding last year or they are friends with most of the people who will be invited to your wedding. If you don't want them there, don't send them an invitation.

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  • My advice for tackling the guest list is this: Start with a wish list. Have both of you sit down with each of your parents and create a list of everyone you would like to invite if money and venue restrictions weren't an issue. Then ask yourselves these questions about each guest to start trimming your list:

    Do they know you're engaged?
    Have they ever met your fiance?
    When was the last time you spoke to them?
    How often do you see them?
    Do they really need to be invited with a guest?
    Will they be a part of your lives forever?

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